With each new police deadly force encounter, regardless of the circumstances, the opposing sides are becoming more polarized, as if some critical mass is building in the space between.
One of the primary forces behind this mass is the concept of blame.
Stone, Patton and Heen explain in their book “Difficult Conversations” that blame accomplishes three things. First, it assigns the responsibility for the problem to one person or group. Second, it judges the actions of that one person or group to be wrong. Third, as the person or group who caused the problem was wrong, blame calls for that person or group to be punished.
The authors note that blame directs the focus backward, on the past, and consequently an emphasis on blame will never create a path forward to a solution.
Moving away from blame first requires that we acknowledge both sides have been engaged in its practice. Read More & Share